There is a story in the Bible about two brothers, that are twins. One would be named Jacob and the other would be named Esau. Jacob and Esau were twin brothers born to Isaac and Rebekah. The Bible tells us that they struggled together in Rebekah's womb, a foreshadowing of their troubled relationship. Esau was born first and thereby became legal heir to the family birthright. In contrast with Esau who was a skillful hunter and his father's favorite, Jacob was a plain man. In Genesis 27:1-45, the writer tells the story of how Jacob tricked his father Isaac into giving his blessings to Jacobas Isaac was nearing death (instead of to Esau).
Genesis 27:41: The writer states that Esau held a grudge against Jacob because of the blessing his father had given him. He said to himself, “The days of mourning for my father are near; then I will kill my brother Jacob.” This tumultuous relationship went on for years. With all of the anger and frustration that Esau had against Jacob, Jacob never lost his focus. Jacob’s story starts off looking like a greedy person, by stealing Esau’s blessing from Isaac. But by the end, Jacob is willing to give Esau everything he had…just to be friends again. A preacher once said, “If you are still friends with the former version of yourself…shame on you.” Growth is necessary and a must. To be human is to grow. If you are twenty years old and you long for the things that made you happy at ten years old, something needs to change. If you still want to live out your life as a twenty-year-old, when you are now thirty-five….something’s not right. If your mentality at fifty is exactly the same as it was at thirty…you may have missed the point of becoming an adult. Jacob has abandoned his previous personality and he is now a man that is set on pursuing the heart of God. Even when confronted with the message that Esau was to bring four hundred men to attack Jacob…Jacob kept his peace and did not allow the advance to deter him from his purpose. Like Jacob, at some point…we have to stop giving our past the permission to throw us off course with our future. He’s gown. He does not like or identify with who he used to be. You see, when you get “grown, grown”, you start to make decisions about WHAT is worthy of your fight. When you really grow, you begin to figure out that there is no need to fight what you used to fight. There are some battles that are beneath you. There are some situations that shouldn’t even be important enough to get you upset. There are some people that you should be able to walk past and know that you cannot spend any more time and energy on ignorance.
I’ve found that you know that you are in the season of increase when your enemies change. You know that you are on your way up when that which you have to fight…changes. If you are still having the same battle that you were having five years ago, it’s because you are on the same battlefield…on the same journey…just running. As the old lyrics would go, “…and I ain’t got tired yet”.
Well, you should be…
As you grow and mature…emotionally and spiritually, it is imperative that we not only embrace but demand the growth of ourselves. If you are still fighting yesterday’s battles today, it’s because you have not grown enough to let your previous battle know…that you are not worthy enough to fight me. If you are a champion, why would you fight an amateur? No one expects an adult to fight a child. If we are overcomers and we are victorious, why are we still fighting that cycle of abusive relationships? Why are we fighting the idea of someone who did us wrong…four relationships ago? Are we still fighting the idea and action of changing our eating habits when we know it’s killing us? Am I still mad at my brother or sister for how he or she treated me growing up…and I am currently thirty-five years old? How old does my child have to be before I stop using them as weapons to make their father act the way I want him to?
Show how grown you are by what you don’t address or tolerate. I know it’s cute to be known as the one who will “pop-off” if you come at me the wrong way. But, we’re better than that. Let’s make “quick to think and slow to speak” …cute. Let’s be “grown, grown” and learn to deal with and move on from our past traumas. If you truly are blessed(which we all are), show your future that your past is gone and your present is… what… matters.
I don’t know about you…but I’m grown.